When you’re approaching 60, there’s a lot of upside. One of them is that one can look on with amusement at the swarming of young people, the dating and seduction, watch it with interest, and it’s no longer one’s problem.
From that distance, he can then notice things that would otherwise be missed. For example, that when young people are insecure and confused, it is something that is normal in other times, but which is deadly dangerous in a time when fanatics are lurking all around, capable of telling lies about sex changes and forcing castration on them.
…there was a tremendous outcry that it supposedly made men predators and women sex objects. Isn’t that right?
How much easier and safer would everything be if young men were given good training in how to court girls and if they could work with that? By wooing I mean trying to get them into bed, but with some refinement. And how much easier would life be for girls in such an environment?
Some attempts have been made on this subject. Various books have been published and some programmes have been held. By all accounts it has been of very different levels, but my knowledge of the field is very superficial. I have not had time to study the advice. But in any case, there was a tremendous outcry that it supposedly made men predators and women sex objects. Isn’t that right? Isn’t a man supposed to be a little predator and a woman supposed to be a little sex object, among other things? After all, every one of those fanatical genderists will readily recast herself as a sex object if a man is attractive enough and wealthy enough within reach.
Which, by the way, is an opportunity for a conservative counterattack. Encourage normal relationships that are also sexual.
Mary Harrington at Unherd describes it nicely: “But if you imagine sex and seduction as an enjoyable, mutually desired dance, it means that when accidents happen, and someone treads on your toes — or feelings — it’s not the end of the world. Not a permanent violation, or a high-stakes trauma — just a chance for one person to say “ow” and the other person to say “I’m sorry”, and then maybe you try again. Because maybe you’ve begun to understand that sex isn’t just an act of nature but a skill, one that improves with practice, with confidence, and with knowledge that can only be gained through experience. And if some of those experiences are less enjoyable than others, they also represent an opportunity to learn what you need to know in order to do better next time.”
Which, by the way, is an opportunity for a conservative counterattack. Encourage normal relationships that are also sexual. Teaching guys how to pick up a girl. Teach girls how to tell a guy that there’s an opportunity here. So that neither can be poisoned by political correctness. To be able to separate intimacy from politics. To not let their sexual experience be ruined by worrying if they’re being racist. A positive alternative to the progressivist world where frigid creatures pose with signs saying “I want to fuck” and everything else is criminalized. And it’s a positive alternative to moralistic utopias about a world without sex outside of marriage (which never really existed).